How to Handle Change

Change hits all of us at some time and, as women, we are used to dealing with change even if we do not want to welcome it with open arms. My entire life, but especially in the past two and a half years, I have gone through a significant amount of changes physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

My husband and I started a church plant in which I began serving in kids ministry at a brand new church for the second time in just a few years, we moved over 2,000 miles away from all of our family with two children and very pregnant, and we now have 4 children under 5 while teaching for an online university, running our kids ministry, and dealing with some significant health issues.

Change enables us to reevaluate purpose, which forces us to ask what are the most important ways I can best change and grow through change. Here’s what I’ve found:

The biggest key is not succumbing to the negativity that change could bring.

When I begin to face a change, I face it head on and keep powering through it. I have noticed that many people, especially women around me, tend to give up and say, “Well, now that this area of my life has changed, it’s too hard so I will not do it.”

I could have simply said, “Now that we’re living here and I have a job and more children, I will not do the children’s ministry at our church.” Believe me, I fight it MOST days, but I focus on the other things God is asking me to say no to and stick with what He has required of me.

A verse that is encouraging to me as I begin a new place of change is Isaiah 43:19, which claims: “See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”

God doesn’t change. We can perceive God to be against us when we’re struggling, but the truth is, He is the same whether we’re relishing in the beauty of family close by or struggling just not to lose everything:

Malachi 3:6 beautifully illustrates this truth: “I the LORD do not change. So you, the descendants of Jacob, are not destroyed.”

We are called to serve God where we are planted and our focus must be on serving Him and not others or we’ll become beyond frustrated. People will disappoint us and, most often, we blame the ministry we’re in that has caused the change when serving God must be the main priority.

One of the books I require my students to read talks about how our life, as women, is full of seasons of change. The spring season is a time for new beginnings, excitement, and new life, the summer season is a time of overwhelming busyness, the fall season is a time for reflection, and the winter season is a time of loss and struggle.

I am in the summer season now, but I know the fall and winter are lurking. So, through all of these seasons I have been through and will continue to go through, I keep my main focus on the vision God has given me for myself, my family, our church, and our city and that is what drives me.

My husband and I often say that, if it wasn’t for our calling, we wouldn’t make it here.

Habakkuk 2:2-3 is a verse I cling to during the struggle to patiently remain on the path:

Write down the revelation
    and make it plain on tablets
    so that a herald may run with it.
For the revelation awaits an appointed time;
    it speaks of the end
    and will not prove false.
Though it linger, wait for it;
    it will certainly come
    and will not delay.

Ariel Tyson

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